How not to be the self-destructive martyr.

It is impoertant not to be the self-destructive martyr.

Some of us think there’s something rather noble and courageous in working excessively, missing meals, losing sleep failing to get proper exercise, depriving your self of much needed leisure, and basically driving the bus over yourself by running yourself into the ground.

I understand that some industries and organizations actually glamorize this sort of self-destructive work ethic. I encouarage my clients not to fall for this. There’s a time and place for this, as in an emergency situation and perhaps, yes, extraordinary commitment may be briefly required, however not day in and day out.

As this martyr, you are not doing yourself or your family any good by damaging your health and mental and emotional well-being.

I remind my clients to consider the hazzards of playing the embattled warrier, running after the illusion of gratification.

Wanting to be a hero is great, do it staying fit, eating healthy, live with commonsense and you will find you are happy and more successful over the long term.

Celebrate life fully, passionately and with purpose.

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Don’t be a slave to your image, instead have freedom in your individuality!

 Don’t be a slave to your image, instead have freedom in your individuality, make your own choices!

Trends, styles and fashions are perceived images that come and go very quickly. There is a great deal of unnecessary stress, excessive work, financial burden and lost time with loved ones, that you incur in the name of looking good for others.

These social ‘images’ include, where you live, what you drive, how you dress, whom you socialize with, and where you send your kids to school.

You should be the individual that is in control of what’s best for you and your family not the so called image you want to project!

In preserving your individuality, carefully scrutinize your real motives.

As most of my clients have found, that a calmer, simpler lifestyle with your purpose will defined will leave you with less of what will impress others and much more of what makes your life something to celebrate.

Let’s coach around this!

Dress for Success, In your Everyday Life!

Dress for Success, In your Everyday Life is important to your comfort and health!

It is amazing how people do not adjust their clothing to their surrounding temperature.

Now days, everyone has a weather app. On their cellphone yet people are still unaware or don’t care about how they dress and ultimately care about their appearance or their health.

Have you seen people keeping on their overcoat in a stifling department store?  How about spending time in the chill of the outdoors without a jacket?

Besides the general feeling of being uncomfortable, they pose a definite irresponsibility towards their health. The wonder why they get the flu or the common cold or worse pneumonia!

Common sense should prevail, however people are using excuses of being too busy to engage their commonsense. It does not take much time, energy or intelligence to adapt the concept of putting on or peeling off clothes as needed that will help you stay comfortable, healthy, perform better and enjoy the activity you are involved in.

Simply, wear layers in cool temperatures that allow you to adjust to the environment. You can take advantage of coat checks or lockers where available as well. Try bringing along an extra garment just in case, for example tying a sweater or light jacket around your waist.

By all means don’t let what others are wearing or not wearing influence your judgment towards incorrect attire. Besides they will pay the price for their own actions.

To dress for real success, dress intelligently and live comfortably.

Let’s coach around this

Stress to Calm- When you are planning meals for others do not be a short order cook, have a calm plan.

When you are planning meals for others do not be a short order cook, have a calm plan.

If you have the responsibility to plan meals for your family, ask yourself, “How much of your time, energy and composure is used up every night making multiple meals for your family?

If you are trying to cater to every taste by preparing different dishes as if you are a restaurant, but a needless and a stressful burden otherwise.

Granted unless someone in your family has a food allergy or intolerance, it is wise to adopt a policy of one meal for the entire family. However, stick to it! Giving in to convenience foods is not good either.

One solution is to make a master list of all the foods everyone likes. Yes, if you are not sure, ask. Your family will enjoy the chance to input their preferences.

To maintain a stress free meal, let good nutrition rule.

Skillfully encourage finicky eaters to try new things by not spoiling them with alternatives. Also, prepare foods in ways more palatable to them, (like pouring melted cheese over broccoli)

Take the time and a little effort to experiment with new recipes and note what works.

A little effort and care up front can pay off in fewer culinary squabbles and less stressful evenings later on.

These suggestions are part of creating a calmer lifestyle. for more go to ask Ellen

 

 

Stress to Calm- Productivity Tip- Do not try to work on an empty stomach, this only more creates stress!

Productivity Tip- Do not try to work on an empty stomach, this only creates stress!

When you are very focused and persistent to the tasks at the hand, you will let yourself go far too long with out eating, or skip a meal entirely.

I catch myself doing  this a lot.

I find that usually it is breakfast or lunch that is overlooked.

However, continuing to perform while hungry can make you feel irritable, dejected, resentful, stressed and downright grouchy.

My solution is quite simple. If it is impossible to pull yourself away, or mealtime is hours off, at least keep healthy snack foods handy. I have fruit smoothies ready to sip on while I work or a protein shake to hold me over until mealtime.

I do schedule a high protein breakfast before I start a project and I drink plenty of water. I also take a 5-minute break every hour to get up and stretch. I have a timer that I use to keep me on target as well.

To stay productive and stress free have a little bit of munching on the fly to take the edge off your hunger. In addition, this will turn your temperament entirely around.

This is another part of creating a calmer lifestyle.

 

 

Stress to Calm- How Eating Outdoors will get you Calmer!

How Eating Outdoors will get you Calmer!

Dining alfresco is one of life’s special pleasures and most calming experiences.

You get the same relaxation bonus whether you are in a restaurant garden, a picnic pavilion, a sidewalk café or your own backyard.

Part of the reason for this calming effect is that conversation is more spirited and less formal.

  • The open space is liberating, you have room to move around and feel casual.
  • The atmosphere more festive, outdoor lighting sets a fun mood and is more romantic.
  • The views more interesting, you have mountains, ocean scenery, or perhaps a lovely garden to look at.
  • The food tastes better, too, perhaps because the fresh air makes you hungrier. In addition, the fresh air helps you to breathe in the great aromas of the food.

For a calmer lifestyle change, take every opportunity to enjoy your meals outside.

You will find that from the moment you are seated, you will feel your stress just slip away.

 

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Stress to Calm- Eat Fresh Foods to Nurture and Fuel for a Calmer Healthier Body.

Eat Fresh Foods to Nurture and Fuel for a Calmer Healthier Body.

Calm and healthy is all about eating fresh, unprocessed, natural foods.

If you look back at our agricultural age, these are what got us here in the first place, meaning, foods from the farmers gardens were what our grandparents were used to.

Beyond the nutritional benefits, it is calming to stop off at a local food markets each day and pick up fresh fish, meats, breads, fruits, and vegetables. As opposed to frozen, processed, canned, or heaven – knows what.

By doing this, and purchasing only what is on our planned list, we have nourishing meals to look forward to and the fun of preparing them as well.

This is part of celebrating your life.

Perhaps we are satisfying some primal hunter-gatherer urge, in the most literal way, to provide for our family, and ourselves because many of us are not fortunate enough to have an onsite garden or container plants.

Whatever is the reason; this is a way of easing our stress, soothing us with reassuring feeling that we are fulfilling a basic need.

Go out and shop for the makings of a good fresh meal tonight. It is time well spent and the very important question is your mind is answered.

Do you know were that food came from? Is it really safe? The answer is yes!

This is another installment in calm lifestyle design.

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